How to Find Love, Keep It, and Let It Go: 8 Rules Nobody comes to us and instructs us on how to love. As a result, we were frequently thrust into relationships with nothing but romance novels and popular culture to guide us. Before now. Jay Shetty lays out clear, doable methods to help you acquire the abilities to practise and nurture love better than ever before, as opposed to treating it as an abstract idea or a collection of clich?s. He offers advice on how to succeed or fail as a team, how to define love, and why you don't cry during a breakup.