There isn't anything that is more difficult or crucial than learning to love your partner in all of their messy humanness. In his therapy practise, where he works with couples who are on the verge of separation or divorce, best-selling author and well-known marriage counsellor Terrence Real observes how poisonous individualism damages intimate relationships at a time when it is tearing our society apart on all levels. The good news is that if you have the correct resources, you can have relationships that are cosier, closer, and more passionate. Real teaches you how to change your relationship into one that is built on empathy, cooperation, and intimacy using his new science-backed expertise in Us. If you and your partner feel like you are living "alone together" or that you are backed into opposite walls of "you" and "me," this book will show you the way back to 'us'.